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Who wants to be a diva?
By Daniel | November 12, 2009
I’ve gotten some MySpace bulletins lately from Plus Size clubs in LA and Vancouver hyping their latest event and encouraging people to “join all the sexxxy divas”.
Really?
The term ”diva” seems inexorably tied to a woman who is spoiled, egotistical, hard to get along with and feels everyone should cater to them. Remember when Naomi Campbell hit her assistant over the head with her cell phone? Being termed a “diva” doesn’t seem like a positive moniker.
So why do some BBW’s adopt that identity? You can usually recognize them by their online nicknames … usually ones that include the words princess, queen, wench, goddess and ”phat”.
These gals don’t want to be accepted for who they are. They revel in being larger than life. They parade their fat as a badge of honor to be treated like the diva they think they are (or should be). If fat is WHO you are rather than WHAT you are, that’s not size acceptance, that’s exploitation.
Apparently it’s OK to be exploited, as long as you exploit yourself. Then supposedly it’s not exploitation, it’s “empowerment”! All those guys who ever rejected you be damned! Now it’s their turn to grovel. And they are SO going to show their titties in fat fetish mags!
The interesting thing is that there are so many guys who are anxious to buy into their role (rolls). Something tells me it has more to do with fetish than acceptance.
IMHO clubs who promote themselves in that fashion aren’t promoting size acceptance, they’re promoting “diva-ism”. How does that further the respect of fat girls?
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February 7th, 2010 at 10:18 am
I just found your Blog and as a SSBBW let me applaud what you are saying here. I for one have been disgusted so many times with men who claim to be FA and all they want is to see my breast or my butt. I am more than my fat I am an intelligent college educated mother. I am someone’s daughter and sister and Aunt. I am a woman not just a belly and breast. I wish more men who understand and most ladies as well. We do not need to show everything to show confidence. I show confidence everyday in the way I carry myself. Anyway I just wanted to say thank you for thinking the way you do.